The other day I saw a video of Anthony Bourdain talking about his life. He said at age 44, he was cooking in a restaurant and thought he would never catch up on his rent or his taxes or pay down his credit cards. He was surviving. He had written an article about the restaurant world and the editor of a local free paper told him he would print it. Anthony thought it would be a laugh for the others he worked with so every week he would run to the corner to see if his article made it into the paper. But it was never there. Continue reading
As I sat watching the Darkest Hour in a theatre on Winston Churchill Boulevard, it was not lost on me. The larger than life British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, played brilliantly by Gary Oldman, was portrayed as the human that he was. Which made the story all the more touching. Continue reading
I recently read about George Dantzig. He was a math student at Berkeley in 1939. He arrived late for class one day and saw two problems written on the board which he assumed was homework. So he jotted them down. He found them quite challenging and it took him a few days but he solved them. He went back to his professor and said sorry it took him so long but should he still hand his work in. The professor told him to throw it on his desk. A few weeks later his professor excitedly told George that he had actually solved two unsolved problems. They weren’t homework at all. The professor had written them down and explained to the students that no one had ever found an answer for them. Continue reading
I’m reading a book called Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck. She talks about fixed and growth mindsets and it is so interesting.
If someone has a fixed mindset, they believe they were born as they will always be. They might believe they are good at swimming and bad at math and it can’t be changed. So if they fail at something, they feel it shows their weakness. They don’t think, “I failed.” They think, “I am a failure.” People with a fixed mindset don’t believe you have to work at something you’re good at. If you’re good at it, it should come easily to you. Continue reading
I wasn’t in a good mood when I arrived at the car dealership. My 2015 van had another issue and the decision had been made to replace it. I sat in the financier’s office and she started taking down information for the car loan. She said her son was born around the same time as I was, but he was in heaven. I asked what happened. She said he was driving to work at age 16 with two other teens and was killed in a car accident. She said he was a lovely boy who wrote poems and played soccer in Europe and stopped bullies. Continue reading
Last night I saw the Golden Globes. I always hold my breath for a good speech when I watch award shows. Who will say something that resonates, that makes you think, that makes you cry, that makes you dream bigger?
Then Oprah was called to the stage. She was, as always, authentic, powerful and speaking the truth. Continue reading
Do you judge yourself? Do you play a track in your head that says you didn’t try hard enough or you ate too much or you should have gone to the gym? Do you highlight the negative instead of the positive?
The key to success in life is treating yourself as you would treat a close friend. Give yourself space to make mistakes, to rest, to be unsure, to overindulge and then get back in the groove. Accept your flaws with your gifts and know that the DNA that allows you to do amazing things will also cause you to do a few things that aren’t so grand. Continue reading
Finding comfort in the discomfort. The yoga instructor mentioned this yesterday and it struck a chord. She said you can’t just fall out of a pose as soon as it feels difficult. You have to find a place to sit in that discomfort. That’s how you grow in life. Continue reading
A blank page in a new book. The first day of 2018. What story will we write?
Research professor and author Brené Brown said, “I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear: I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go. Continue reading
You learn something new every day.
This morning the alarm went off at 6 a.m. I turned on the light and saw a full-on blizzard outside. It’s day 22 of my rental van and I had to be in a city about 40 minutes away for an early morning hockey tournament game. Continue reading