Happiness is what we all strive for. But we can’t look for it outside of ourselves. If we hitch our happiness wagon to someone else’s star, disappointment is imminent.
As self-improvement guru Dale Carnegie once said, “Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.”
The good news is that is something we have control over. Do we feel grateful for what we have? Passionate about what we’re doing? Hopeful about the future? If not, what action can we personally take to make those feelings a reality? As William Arthur Ward once said, “Happiness is an inside job.”
Author Eckhart Tolle talked about separating who you are from your thoughts about who you are. We all have stories in our head about what our childhood was like and what we are good at and what we deserve. They are not necessarily facts. They are descriptions that may or may not be accurate. We might say to ourselves, “She didn’t like me because she said this or didn’t say that.” In actuality, that person might have been having a daily struggle and you weren’t even on their radar. It had nothing to do with you. But our thoughts can create a forest fire out of one match. Burning up any hopes of happiness.
Instead of letting these loose thoughts run rampant in our mind, we can focus on what is right in front of us. Our loved ones. The birds in the trees. The sun on our face. Our favourite lunch. An interesting conversation.
This is the key to happiness. When we own our journey and don’t listen to the stories in our head that tell us all the reasons things are going wrong we can focus on all the things that are going right. And who wouldn’t be happy about that?
Last night was a milestone for our family. Our oldest son graduated from Grade 8. It was a beautiful evening of group pictures and awards, friends and celebrations, dancing and swimming. I know he’ll never forget it. Continue reading
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My brother, Seamus Kelleher, is an amazing high school drama teacher. He writes original plays for his students and coached the high school football team for many years. He recently shared a story with me about one of his students that was very inspiring. Continue reading
I saw a quote the other day that made me stop and think. Business coach Brad Sugars said, “Right now someone far less qualified than you is living your dreams. All because they didn’t just talk about it. They took action.” Continue reading
This was a very exciting week. As some of you know, I decided to publish a book in the year 2000 and made a goal of 100 rejection letters because Dr. Seuss got 43 for his first story. To date I am at 32 rejections for various manuscripts. Then on January 1, 2016 I started a weekly blog which gave me a reason to write consistently and I turned the first year of that blog into a book entitled The Treasure You Seek. Continue reading
Seventy-five years ago this week, a little girl turned 13 and her dad gave her a diary as a gift. It was June 12, 1942. And the girl was Anne Frank.
She wrote about her life as a teenager and all the things her family had to endure while hiding from the Nazis during World War II. Sadly, the family was discovered and she died in 1945 at a concentration camp. Continue reading
Actor and social commentator Will Rogers once said, “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”
Action is everything. Take a small step each day. And don’t be afraid to fail. Continue reading
Seventy three years ago this week was D-Day. On June 6, 1944 allied troops landed on a beach in Normandy to fight for our freedom. This was the beginning of the end of World War II. There were 10,000 allied casualties that day including 4,414 who died. Continue reading