Ruth Bader Ginsburg was born in the 1930s. A vastly different time than today. Considering that, it is remarkable that her mom left savings for Ruth to go to school before she died at a young age of cancer, that Ruth went on to be a lawyer (and was one of nine women in a class of 500 at Harvard Law), and that her husband took care of the cooking and as Ruth said, “was the only young man I dated who cared that I had a brain.” Continue reading
Podcaster and entrepreneur Tim Ferriss mentioned something he heard from psychologist, author and mindfulness leader Tara Brach. She asked, “What are you unwilling to feel?”
What a question. What are you unwilling to feel? And by not feeling it, does it lead to alcohol, gambling, drugs, relationship problems, commitment issues, stagnation and more? Continue reading
I’m currently taking a course with University of Pennsylvania Wharton School professor Stewart Friedman entitled Leading the Life you Want. In it he speaks about leaders being real, whole and innovative and shares stories of people who have started without advantage and created very meaningful, powerful lives. Continue reading
In Sapiens, Yuval Noah Harari writes, “Ever more scholars see cultures as a kind of mental infection or parasite, with humans as its unwitting host.”
This made me stop and wonder. We understand that physical viruses move through their hosts, making them sick and maybe worse, before moving on to the next person. Is that what is happening to our thoughts as well? Are we catching a story and then trying to make it true for us? Continue reading
In a Tim Ferriss podcast where he discusses highlights from his book Tools of Titans, he touches on courage. He mentions Cus D’Amato who coached Mike Tyson in the years before he became the youngest heavyweight champion of the world. Cus said, “The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.”
Brené Brown talks about us having to choose courage or comfort. We cannot have both. And by having uncomfortable conversations we can grow and change the world around us. In fact, Tim Ferriss says, “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
Brené is also well known for sharing President Theodore Roosevelt’s words when he said, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
The person in the arena. The person with the courage to try. The person who knows that they may fail but takes action anyway.
Are we choosing courage or comfort? In our family, our work, the way we think about things that are happening in society. In the story we tell ourselves about ourselves. Do we toe the line or question if things could be different?
We all have fear. And we also all have it in us to be the hero of our own story. Are we willing to use our fear as fuel and fly?
Brian Williams, a motivational speaker and the founder of Think Kindness, said in his Ted Talk that the definition of life is “the pursuit of amazing stories. Stories of success, adversity, amazing events, happiness, failure, new beginnings.” Continue reading
This week I heard about Michael Novogratz on the Tim Ferriss podcast. He used to be a partner at Goldman Sachs before he left in disgrace. He went on to be president and partner at Fortress Investment Group some years later. He, like all of us, has had his rock bottoms. Job loss, rehab and more. Continue reading
When I was young, you went to Blockbuster on a Friday night to rent a video. You went to the library to research a paper. You listened to your Walk Man on the school bus. You made mixed cassette tapes of your favourite songs from the radio. You talked to your friends from a phone attached to the wall in the kitchen. Continue reading
I had some time off work last week and I spent it by water with loved ones while reading and listening to podcasts. I recently learned through the VIA Character Strength Survey that one of my character strengths is love of learning and this is how I fuel my well-being. I enjoy thinking about ideas, connecting the dots from different lanes and wrapping my mind around something new. This is bliss to me. Continue reading
The book Sapiens has been on my bedside table for about two years. I have so many books to read and just did not get to it. I started today and the first few paragraphs have me riveted. And like many stories we have heard before, the book was rejected many times before it was published. Continue reading