In a Tim Ferriss podcast where he discusses highlights from his book Tools of Titans, he touches on courage. He mentions Cus D’Amato who coached Mike Tyson in the years before he became the youngest heavyweight champion of the world. Cus said, “The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.”
Brené Brown talks about us having to choose courage or comfort. We cannot have both. And by having uncomfortable conversations we can grow and change the world around us. In fact, Tim Ferriss says, “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
Brené is also well known for sharing President Theodore Roosevelt’s words when he said, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
The person in the arena. The person with the courage to try. The person who knows that they may fail but takes action anyway.
Are we choosing courage or comfort? In our family, our work, the way we think about things that are happening in society. In the story we tell ourselves about ourselves. Do we toe the line or question if things could be different?
We all have fear. And we also all have it in us to be the hero of our own story. Are we willing to use our fear as fuel and fly?
Last week we moved for the fourth time in four years. I must admit, I was in denial the last few weeks before the big day. The schedule was full of appointments and events and dance competitions. The packing and purging loomed before me. Our elementary school was having a book bonanza so I ended up donating about 12 bags of books to the cause. It looked like I had robbed a library. Continue reading
I was listening to psychologist and meditation teacher Tara Brach on the Tim Ferriss podcast the other day. She asked, “What do I believe that is limiting me?” Do I, like many others, suffer from imposter syndrome? Do I think I’m not smart enough, thin enough, friendly enough, organized enough? Do I think I’m bad at presentations or networking or making money? Continue reading
The amygdala is a tiny part of our brain that has been wired for thousands of years for one thing. To keep us alive. Many years ago, if a human was hunting in the forest and heard a twig snap, they would run for fear of being attacked by a wild animal. That’s a signal from the amygdala and it was necessary at the time. Fight or flight.
If that signal was not there, death could ensue. Continue reading
American president Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Fear can paralyze you. Stop you from speaking up, trying something new, making a change. Continue reading
Steve Jobs said, “Life can be so much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call ‘life’ was made up by people who were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.” Continue reading
There are negative and positive ions all around us. And in fact, the negative ions are better for us. They are found in the woods and by waterfalls. Positive ions are not great for us. They are found in clothes dryers, phones, computers and air pollution.
But the positive and negative will always be there. We need positive and negative charges to make electricity. We can go for a walk in nature, but if we want to communicate our inspiration from that walk, it will most likely be done on a computer. Negative ions and positive ions together again. Continue reading
I named my book, The Treasure You Seek, after a quote by mythologist and author Joseph Campbell. He said, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” He wrote a book called The Hero With A Thousand Faces that talks about the story of the hero and how it is told in a similar fashion in myths from all cultures and religions. His book has inspired many including George Lucas when he was writing the saga Star Wars. Continue reading