Last week we moved for the fourth time in four years. I must admit, I was in denial the last few weeks before the big day. The schedule was full of appointments and events and dance competitions. The packing and purging loomed before me. Our elementary school was having a book bonanza so I ended up donating about 12 bags of books to the cause. It looked like I had robbed a library.
Three days before the move, just before dinner, my cell phone rang. It was my 13-year-old son’s friend saying, “Your son has been hit by a car on his bike. You should come!”
Every mother’s nightmare. I dropped what I was doing and ran. Thankfully after riding to the hospital by ambulance and getting all the tests done, he walked away with a few bruises. This reminded me that no matter where we lay our heads at night, the most important thing is being with the ones you love.
Author Tim Ferriss talks about something called fear setting instead of goal setting. A few times a year he makes a list of all the things he is scared of. Then he follows through with what would happen should that fear come true. He has even fasted or lived on oatmeal for a period of time to see if he could survive on very little. And of course he did. So then he wipes that fear off the list. And he can take action without worrying that he won’t survive the consequences.
Once the boxes were unpacked and the cupboards and shelves were full of books and plates and clothes after our move, I looked around and thought, “What was I so scared of?” As U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
So make the move, take the interview, meet the new person. Once you do it, you will realize you were being held back by the story in your head. And you can re-write that story any time you choose.
I was listening to psychologist and meditation teacher Tara Brach on the Tim Ferriss podcast the other day. She asked, “What do I believe that is limiting me?” Do I, like many others, suffer from imposter syndrome? Do I think I’m not smart enough, thin enough, friendly enough, organized enough? Do I think I’m bad at presentations or networking or making money? Continue reading
The amygdala is a tiny part of our brain that has been wired for thousands of years for one thing. To keep us alive. Many years ago, if a human was hunting in the forest and heard a twig snap, they would run for fear of being attacked by a wild animal. That’s a signal from the amygdala and it was necessary at the time. Fight or flight.
If that signal was not there, death could ensue. Continue reading
American president Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Fear can paralyze you. Stop you from speaking up, trying something new, making a change. Continue reading
Steve Jobs said, “Life can be so much broader, once you discover one simple fact, and that is that everything around you that you call ‘life’ was made up by people who were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.” Continue reading
There are negative and positive ions all around us. And in fact, the negative ions are better for us. They are found in the woods and by waterfalls. Positive ions are not great for us. They are found in clothes dryers, phones, computers and air pollution.
But the positive and negative will always be there. We need positive and negative charges to make electricity. We can go for a walk in nature, but if we want to communicate our inspiration from that walk, it will most likely be done on a computer. Negative ions and positive ions together again. Continue reading
I named my book, The Treasure You Seek, after a quote by mythologist and author Joseph Campbell. He said, “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.” He wrote a book called The Hero With A Thousand Faces that talks about the story of the hero and how it is told in a similar fashion in myths from all cultures and religions. His book has inspired many including George Lucas when he was writing the saga Star Wars. Continue reading