What is your last memory of being really happy? Joyful? Laughing until your stomach hurt?
My guess is it had nothing to do with possessions.
It may have been a family celebration. A graduation. A healthy diagnosis. Some good news after an accident. Watching your loved one shine.
If we are waiting to be happy until we pay off the house or meet the right person or get a better job or lose ten pounds, we will be waiting for a very long time.
As novelist Nathaniel Hawthorne once said, “Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.”
The happiness has always been with us. It’s there in the darkness and sadness and mundane days. It’s there when everything is crumbling down around us. We just have to switch our perspective and look through a gratitude lens. Remember what we do have. Cherish all that we should be thankful for.
Mythologist Joseph Campbell said, “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
The life that is waiting for us is the one that will make us happy. If we let it. The only person who can let that happiness in is the one looking back from the mirror.
I’m very grateful. Grateful that we have a place to lay our heads tonight. Grateful that my three kids are enjoying their school year and all the activities that go with it. Grateful that my mom and dad cooked a delicious meal for us yesterday after we spent the weekend at a hockey rink for a tournament that we won. I’m grateful for friends who accept my flaws, books that inspire me, walks that fuel me and dreams that keep me moving in the right direction. Continue reading
Oprah said it years ago. And author Rachel Hollis reminded me this week. About gratitude. Daily gratitude. And how it is a game-changer.
So as my kids prepare for the last day of school before summer, I am starting my own mini gratitude movement. Continue reading
Martha Beck, sociologist and life coach, said, “Relinquishing the delusional hope that we can or must be flawless — allows us to seek happiness in the only place it can be found: our real, messy, imperfect experience.” Continue reading
William Shakespeare said, “Things won are done, joy’s soul lies in the doing.”
As much as we think we’ll be happiest when we reach the top of the mountain, we are actually happiest on the journey.
Joy’s soul lies in the doing. Continue reading
The school year is coming to a close and it’s time for talent shows and play days and graduations and vacations. Although it’s a wild time, it reminds me of the beauty of childhood. When anything is possible and squeezing the most fun out of each day is the way things roll. Continue reading