You want to be the weakest person in the room.
The weakest student, teacher, parent and colleague.
Because then you can learn and grow from those who are stronger than you.
You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
So raise your average.
If you are the strongest person in the room, you are in the wrong room.
We all strive to be competent. To do things right. To not make mistakes. To not look weak. But the only way to evolve is to fall down and rise again.
In order to do this we have to try. We have to share. We have to be vulnerable. We have to take a chance. We have to embrace failure.
And by doing this, you can find a beautiful treasure that you had no idea was there.
As author Anne Lamott said, “We are given a shot at dancing with, or at least clapping along with, the absurdity of life, instead of being squashed by it over and over again. It’s like singing on a boat during a terrible storm at sea. You can’t stop the raging storm, but singing can change the hearts and spirits of the people who are together on that ship.”
We are on that ship together. And we are waiting for you to sing. It doesn’t matter if you don’t hit the right notes. It’s far worse if you don’t start singing at all.
In 2016, quarterback Nick Foles almost made the decision to quit the NFL. He had just been released from his contract. But he decided to stay and this season, ended up as back-up quarterback for the Philadelphia Eagles. The first NFL team he played for when he was initially drafted.
That all changed when his team’s starting quarterback tore his ACL in December. Nick Foles was pulled into the spotlight and he made the most of it. Helping his team make it to the Super Bowl as the underdog and then bringing home the top prize. Continue reading
I saw this quote by author Jackson Kiddard yesterday and it stopped me in my tracks. It changed me.
“Anything that annoys you is for teaching you patience.
Anyone who abandons you is for
teaching you how to stand up
on your own two feet.
Anything that angers you is for teaching you forgiveness and compassion.
Anything that has power over you is for teaching you how to take your power back.
Anything you hate is for
teaching you unconditional love.
Anything you fear is for
teaching you courage to
overcome your fear.
Anything you can’t control is for teaching you how to let go and trust the Universe.” Continue reading
Buddhist monk and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh said, “People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” Continue reading
There is a space of time between getting bad news and coming to terms with it. I call it the “Time of Turmoil.”
It could be the end of a relationship, a negative review at work, hearing challenging health news, or a fight with a friend.
This is when we ask ourselves things like…
“What could I have done differently?”
“Why don’t they like me?”
“What did I do wrong?” Continue reading
Growing up I always remember my mom saying that March either comes in like a lion and out like a lamb, or vice versa. This year it definitely seemed to come in like a lamb as I watched everyone sporting their spring coats on the first day of the month. But the temperature soon dropped and reminded us that we still have some cold weather ahead. Continue reading