I was listening to Jerry Seinfeld on The Tim Ferriss Show. So many golden nuggets. He said, “When you have a creative gift, it’s like someone just gave you a horse. Now, you have to learn how to ride it. You got to learn how to ride this horse. I’ve seen people that are born by the dozens and dozens, I’ve seen people that were given black stallions, and it usually — if you have a black stallion, like from that movie, and you’re born, and they just put you on it — and that’s what happens. They just put you on it. And you either learn to ride this thing, or it’s going to kill you.”
You must put in the work. You must learn how to use that gift. For Seinfeld, it was writing and he explained how painful it was to learn to ride that horse. Continue reading
I remember my teacher handing out an assignment in Grade 3 and I did not understand what to do next. The room was silent except for the vigorous scratching of pencils on paper as all the other students got to work. I was scared to raise my hand and ask a question because I thought it would make me look bad.
I have learned a lot since then. Continue reading
As I listened to his podcast on my morning walk this week, Tim Ferriss reminded me about a book he recommended that I read a few years back. It is called The Lessons of History by Will and Ariel Durant. It condenses 10,000 years of history into about 120 pages. Tim said that when you look at that kind of snapshot, you realize we have been here before. Plagues, famines, wars. And we got through it. As we will again. Continue reading
You want to be the weakest person in the room.
The weakest student, teacher, parent and colleague.
Because then you can learn and grow from those who are stronger than you.
You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
So raise your average.
If you are the strongest person in the room, you are in the wrong room.
We all strive to be competent. To do things right. To not make mistakes. To not look weak. But the only way to evolve is to fall down and rise again.
In order to do this we have to try. We have to share. We have to be vulnerable. We have to take a chance. We have to embrace failure.
And by doing this, you can find a beautiful treasure that you had no idea was there.
As author Anne Lamott said, “We are given a shot at dancing with, or at least clapping along with, the absurdity of life, instead of being squashed by it over and over again. It’s like singing on a boat during a terrible storm at sea. You can’t stop the raging storm, but singing can change the hearts and spirits of the people who are together on that ship.”
We are on that ship together. And we are waiting for you to sing. It doesn’t matter if you don’t hit the right notes. It’s far worse if you don’t start singing at all.
In 2016, quarterback Nick Foles almost made the decision to quit the NFL. He had just been released from his contract. But he decided to stay and this season, ended up as back-up quarterback for the Philadelphia Eagles. The first NFL team he played for when he was initially drafted.
That all changed when his team’s starting quarterback tore his ACL in December. Nick Foles was pulled into the spotlight and he made the most of it. Helping his team make it to the Super Bowl as the underdog and then bringing home the top prize. Continue reading
I saw this quote by author Jackson Kiddard yesterday and it stopped me in my tracks. It changed me.
“Anything that annoys you is for teaching you patience.
Anyone who abandons you is for
teaching you how to stand up
on your own two feet.
Anything that angers you is for teaching you forgiveness and compassion.
Anything that has power over you is for teaching you how to take your power back.
Anything you hate is for
teaching you unconditional love.
Anything you fear is for
teaching you courage to
overcome your fear.
Anything you can’t control is for teaching you how to let go and trust the Universe.” Continue reading
Buddhist monk and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh said, “People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” Continue reading
There is a space of time between getting bad news and coming to terms with it. I call it the “Time of Turmoil.”
It could be the end of a relationship, a negative review at work, hearing challenging health news, or a fight with a friend.
This is when we ask ourselves things like…
“What could I have done differently?”
“Why don’t they like me?”
“What did I do wrong?” Continue reading
Growing up I always remember my mom saying that March either comes in like a lion and out like a lamb, or vice versa. This year it definitely seemed to come in like a lamb as I watched everyone sporting their spring coats on the first day of the month. But the temperature soon dropped and reminded us that we still have some cold weather ahead. Continue reading