In her book Positivity, Barbara L. Fredrickson writes, “As I see it, there are two basic responses to hardship. Despair or hope. In despair, you multiply your negativity. Your fear and uncertainty can turn into stress. Your stress can morph into hopeless sadness, which in turn can breed shame. Worse than this mushrooming negativity, despair smothers and snuffs out all forms of positivity. With positivity extinguished, all possibilities for genuine connections with others are lost. Despair opens the gate to a downward spiral that may well lead you to rock bottom.
Hope is different. It’s not the mirror reflection of despair. Your hope, in fact, acknowledges negativity with clear eyes. More important, though, your hope kindles further positivity within you. Even the most subtle shades of hope can be a springboard for you to feel love, gratitude, inspiration, and more. And these warm and tender feelings open your mind and your heart and allow you to connect with others. So hope opens the gate to an upward spiral that empowers you to bounce back from hardship and emerge even stronger and more resourceful than before.
Some people — either genetically or intuitively — seem to understand the gifts of positivity better than the rest of us. We call those people resilient. They are the ones who smile in the face of adversity, reframe bad events as opportunities, and adopt a wait-and-see attitude about future threats. This doesn’t mean that they never feel bad. They bleed just like everyone else.” Continue reading
In her book Positivity, Barbara L. Fredrickson writes, “You are constantly changing — not just your clothes or your hairstyle, but your inner core, the very essence of your being. Change is the rule, constancy the rare exception. Consider the change underway within you at this very moment. What you know as ‘you’ is actually trillions of cells living and working together. Most only live for a few weeks or months. When they die, they are replaced by new cells. This cycle continues for as long as you live. The pace of cell renewal varies by body part. Your taste buds live only a few hours. Your white blood cells live about ten days. Your muscle cells live about three months. Even your bones are made anew time and again. Considering these differences, scientists have suggested that you replace about 1 per cent of your cells each day. That’s 1 per cent today, another 1 per cent tomorrow, amounting to roughly 30 per cent by next month and 100 per cent by next season. Seeing yourself and your cells in this way, every three months you get a whole new you. Perhaps it’s no coincidence that it takes around three months to learn a new habit or make a lifestyle change. Perhaps we can’t teach an old cell new tricks.” Continue reading
I have known about Tony Robbins for years. I saw him jumping on stages, getting people to walk across hot coals, coaching leaders like Lady Diana, Nelson Mandela, Bill Clinton and Oprah. Continue reading
Nikola Tesla, inventor of the AC electrical system, said, “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” High-frequency people are positive game-changers who believe anything is possible. Low-frequency people complain about life, put others down and see the walls that block possibilities rather than the doors that open into opportunity. Continue reading
I wasn’t in a good mood when I arrived at the car dealership. My 2015 van had another issue and the decision had been made to replace it. I sat in the financier’s office and she started taking down information for the car loan. She said her son was born around the same time as I was, but he was in heaven. I asked what happened. She said he was driving to work at age 16 with two other teens and was killed in a car accident. She said he was a lovely boy who wrote poems and played soccer in Europe and stopped bullies. Continue reading
This week the movie Darkest Hour will be released. It tells the tale of British Prime Minister Winston Churchill in World War II having to decide whether to make peace with Hitler or fight on. So much of Europe had already fallen to the Nazis and Britain almost lost everything at Dunkirk when regular folks in personal boats had to help bring the British soldiers home to fight against the German attack. Continue reading
Science journalist Daniel Goldman said, “Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else’s toxic state.” Continue reading