Debbie Millman, designer and author, was a guest on the Tim Ferriss podcast that I listened to this week. After multiple rejections in her career and overcoming a traumatic childhood, she wrote six books, co-founded the world’s first masters in branding program, started one of the world’s first podcasts entitled Design Matters, and was the editorial and creative director of Print Magazine for a time (a magazine which was in print from 1940 to 2017).
She mentioned that one of the things she has asked of her students over the years is to write, “Your Ten-Year Plan For A Remarkable Life.” This is something she learned as a student of Milton Glaser (who created the I Heart NY campaign which I remember vividly from my childhood.) Continue reading
Podcaster and entrepreneur Tim Ferriss mentioned something he heard from psychologist, author and mindfulness leader Tara Brach. She asked, “What are you unwilling to feel?”
What a question. What are you unwilling to feel? And by not feeling it, does it lead to alcohol, gambling, drugs, relationship problems, commitment issues, stagnation and more? Continue reading
In a Tim Ferriss podcast where he discusses highlights from his book Tools of Titans, he touches on courage. He mentions Cus D’Amato who coached Mike Tyson in the years before he became the youngest heavyweight champion of the world. Cus said, “The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.”
Brené Brown talks about us having to choose courage or comfort. We cannot have both. And by having uncomfortable conversations we can grow and change the world around us. In fact, Tim Ferriss says, “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
Brené is also well known for sharing President Theodore Roosevelt’s words when he said, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
The person in the arena. The person with the courage to try. The person who knows that they may fail but takes action anyway.
Are we choosing courage or comfort? In our family, our work, the way we think about things that are happening in society. In the story we tell ourselves about ourselves. Do we toe the line or question if things could be different?
We all have fear. And we also all have it in us to be the hero of our own story. Are we willing to use our fear as fuel and fly?
This week I heard about Michael Novogratz on the Tim Ferriss podcast. He used to be a partner at Goldman Sachs before he left in disgrace. He went on to be president and partner at Fortress Investment Group some years later. He, like all of us, has had his rock bottoms. Job loss, rehab and more. Continue reading
I remember my teacher handing out an assignment in Grade 3 and I did not understand what to do next. The room was silent except for the vigorous scratching of pencils on paper as all the other students got to work. I was scared to raise my hand and ask a question because I thought it would make me look bad.
I have learned a lot since then. Continue reading
Tim Ferriss highlighted this poem Friday and it made me stop and think.
by Nic Askew
We are fragile. You and me. Continue reading
I was listening to author Elizabeth Gilbert on the Tim Ferriss podcast last week and she fueled my soul. She spoke about how the language of our experience is always that we should ‘power through.’ But sometimes we can’t. We need to stop and take care of ourselves. And then begin again. Continue reading
As I listened to his podcast on my morning walk this week, Tim Ferriss reminded me about a book he recommended that I read a few years back. It is called The Lessons of History by Will and Ariel Durant. It condenses 10,000 years of history into about 120 pages. Tim said that when you look at that kind of snapshot, you realize we have been here before. Plagues, famines, wars. And we got through it. As we will again. Continue reading
Entrepreneur Tim Ferriss toyed with getting an MBA after his undergrad. But instead, he took the $100,000 he would have paid in tuition and invested it in start-ups. He knew that he’d most likely lose it all. But he looked at it as the cost of learning the lessons he needed to learn. Just like you don’t get your tuition back after earning a degree. He lost money but he also learned a massive amount. Invaluable experience. Continue reading
Chinese philosopher Confucius said, “We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one.” Continue reading