Last week we moved for the fourth time in four years. I must admit, I was in denial the last few weeks before the big day. The schedule was full of appointments and events and dance competitions. The packing and purging loomed before me. Our elementary school was having a book bonanza so I ended up donating about 12 bags of books to the cause. It looked like I had robbed a library.
Three days before the move, just before dinner, my cell phone rang. It was my 13-year-old son’s friend saying, “Your son has been hit by a car on his bike. You should come!”
Every mother’s nightmare. I dropped what I was doing and ran. Thankfully after riding to the hospital by ambulance and getting all the tests done, he walked away with a few bruises. This reminded me that no matter where we lay our heads at night, the most important thing is being with the ones you love.
Author Tim Ferriss talks about something called fear setting instead of goal setting. A few times a year he makes a list of all the things he is scared of. Then he follows through with what would happen should that fear come true. He has even fasted or lived on oatmeal for a period of time to see if he could survive on very little. And of course he did. So then he wipes that fear off the list. And he can take action without worrying that he won’t survive the consequences.
Once the boxes were unpacked and the cupboards and shelves were full of books and plates and clothes after our move, I looked around and thought, “What was I so scared of?” As U.S. President Theodore Roosevelt once said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
So make the move, take the interview, meet the new person. Once you do it, you will realize you were being held back by the story in your head. And you can re-write that story any time you choose.
I was just listening to entrepreneur Derek Sivers on the Tim Ferriss podcast. Derek is the former founder and CEO of CD Baby which is a very successful online store for independent musicians. Continue reading
I recently heard Will MacAskill on the Tim Ferriss podcast. In his early thirties, Will is likely the youngest associate professor in the world and teaches Philosophy at Oxford. He co-founded a non-profit called 80,000 Hours which helps people figure out how to make the most impact with their career. He is all about effective altruism and donating money to charities that make the most difference. He donates anything he makes above $36,000 to various causes. Continue reading
I was listening to philosopher and author Alain de Botton on the Tim Ferriss podcast and I am so drawn in to what he was saying. He was talking about democratizing philosophy so that everyone realizes how helpful it is to ask questions about what makes us happy, what we want to do every day, and how love fits into our lives. Philosophy is not just meant for universities and theoretical thinkers. It’s meant for all of us. Continue reading
Tim Ferriss was an early investor in Twitter, Uber, Facebook and others. He has written many best-selling books including The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body and Tools of Titans. He has a successful podcast where he interviews chess prodigies, actors, athletes, hedge fund managers, military leaders and entrepreneurs to dissect excellence and give listeners the inspiration to dream big and make things happen in their own lives. Continue reading
I was listening to psychologist and meditation teacher Tara Brach on the Tim Ferriss podcast the other day. She asked, “What do I believe that is limiting me?” Do I, like many others, suffer from imposter syndrome? Do I think I’m not smart enough, thin enough, friendly enough, organized enough? Do I think I’m bad at presentations or networking or making money? Continue reading
I was listening to Tim Ferriss interview Laird Hamilton and Gabrielle Reese on his podcast this morning. Gabrielle Reese is a professional volleyball player and model and her husband Laird Hamilton is a surfer. When Tim asked them what their goal is when it comes to parenting, Laird said he wanted to create content human beings. Continue reading
Tim Ferriss was interviewing singer Amanda Parker, spouse of author Neil Gaiman, on his podcast and she mentioned something that happened to her that was very powerful. She was in a yoga class years back and the activity was to find a partner and stare into their eyes for a number of minutes. It was hard to do as it’s a very intimate interaction, especially with a stranger. But what she found most telling was that a number of people in the class broke down in tears and were unable to continue. Continue reading
The game of life is won and lost in the mind. If someone tells you not to bother as you are not cut out for it, do you listen? Does it affect how you see yourself?
What other people think of you is none of your business but it’s hard to live by that mantra.
Do you believe in yourself beyond reason? Do you ask for forgiveness rather than permission? Continue reading
I was listening to Tim Ferriss interview Peter Diamandis and so many inspirational tidbits were shared. Peter created the X Prize Foundation that offered a $10 million prize to entice private companies to build manned space ships that could go into space twice in two weeks. Peter didn’t have the prize money yet when he launched the bold initiative but he convinced 20 astronauts and the head of NASA to stand beside him on stage for the announcement. One hundred and fifty companies turned Peter down when he was trying to raise the prize money but Ansari finally said yes and the contest was a success. More than $100 million was invested in creating space travel solutions by non-government groups trying to win the prize. Big goals and big risks lead to big outcomes. Continue reading