I was listening to The Tim Ferriss Show and I heard Dr. Philip Zimbardo. He is a past professor from Stanford University, was president of the American Psychology Association and wrote The Lucifer Effect and The Time Paradox among other books. He is well-known for his 1971 Stanford Prison Experiment, in which students took on the roles of prisoners and guards for a 24-hour-a-day experiment. It only lasted six days instead of two weeks due to the psychological trauma on the participants. Most recently, he is studying heroism by asking what makes some people turn to evil things and others act like heroes and help others? Continue reading
This week I was listening to Krista Tippett, Peabody Award-winning broadcaster, and New York Times best-selling author, on The Tim Ferriss Show.
Something Krista said in the past was discussed. She said, “I can disagree with your opinion, it turns out, but I can’t disagree with your experience.” Continue reading
I was listening to comedian Jerrod Carmichael on The Tim Ferriss Show this week. He grew up in North Carolina and was selling shoes when he decided he wanted to become a comedian. So, he moved to LA to try it out there. He wanted to compete against the best. He wanted to jump into the deep end and see if he could swim.
Sounds scary. But he ended up with a show on NBC, an HBO special and a strong career. Continue reading
I was listening to Jerry Seinfeld on The Tim Ferriss Show. So many golden nuggets. He said, “When you have a creative gift, it’s like someone just gave you a horse. Now, you have to learn how to ride it. You got to learn how to ride this horse. I’ve seen people that are born by the dozens and dozens, I’ve seen people that were given black stallions, and it usually — if you have a black stallion, like from that movie, and you’re born, and they just put you on it — and that’s what happens. They just put you on it. And you either learn to ride this thing, or it’s going to kill you.”
You must put in the work. You must learn how to use that gift. For Seinfeld, it was writing and he explained how painful it was to learn to ride that horse. Continue reading
I was listening to The Tim Ferriss Show again this week (my course in living life) and his guest was Naval Ravikant. Naval is co-founder of Angel List and has invested in over 100 companies including a few small start-ups called Twitter and Uber.
Naval mentioned when Greek philosopher Socrates said, “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Naval then went on to say… Continue reading
Adam Robinson is an author, US Chess Federation life master and co-founder of The Princeton Review. When speaking with Tim Ferriss on his podcast, Adam said that he lives his life trying to delight other people. He said, “If you’re going to a meeting with a venture capitalist because you’re looking for funding for your startup, or you’re going on a date, or you’re going on a job interview, forget the fact that it’s an interview; you’re going to delight the other person. That’s what you’re there for, first and foremost and to make a connection. And if you do, if that’s your focus as opposed to getting the job or getting the funding, then you get magic and miracles. That should be your primary focus. And what it does is it gives you infinite power because you want nothing, and you’re offering everything. All I want in this moment now, with you, sitting in front of you on your couch, is to connect with you and to delight you.” Continue reading
Debbie Millman, designer and author, was a guest on the Tim Ferriss podcast that I listened to this week. After multiple rejections in her career and overcoming a traumatic childhood, she wrote six books, co-founded the world’s first masters in branding program, started one of the world’s first podcasts entitled Design Matters, and was the editorial and creative director of Print Magazine for a time (a magazine which was in print from 1940 to 2017).
She mentioned that one of the things she has asked of her students over the years is to write, “Your Ten-Year Plan For A Remarkable Life.” This is something she learned as a student of Milton Glaser (who created the I Heart NY campaign which I remember vividly from my childhood.) Continue reading
Podcaster and entrepreneur Tim Ferriss mentioned something he heard from psychologist, author and mindfulness leader Tara Brach. She asked, “What are you unwilling to feel?”
What a question. What are you unwilling to feel? And by not feeling it, does it lead to alcohol, gambling, drugs, relationship problems, commitment issues, stagnation and more? Continue reading
In a Tim Ferriss podcast where he discusses highlights from his book Tools of Titans, he touches on courage. He mentions Cus D’Amato who coached Mike Tyson in the years before he became the youngest heavyweight champion of the world. Cus said, “The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear, projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs. It’s the same thing, fear, but it’s what you do with it that matters.”
Brené Brown talks about us having to choose courage or comfort. We cannot have both. And by having uncomfortable conversations we can grow and change the world around us. In fact, Tim Ferriss says, “A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
Brené is also well known for sharing President Theodore Roosevelt’s words when he said, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
The person in the arena. The person with the courage to try. The person who knows that they may fail but takes action anyway.
Are we choosing courage or comfort? In our family, our work, the way we think about things that are happening in society. In the story we tell ourselves about ourselves. Do we toe the line or question if things could be different?
We all have fear. And we also all have it in us to be the hero of our own story. Are we willing to use our fear as fuel and fly?
This week I heard about Michael Novogratz on the Tim Ferriss podcast. He used to be a partner at Goldman Sachs before he left in disgrace. He went on to be president and partner at Fortress Investment Group some years later. He, like all of us, has had his rock bottoms. Job loss, rehab and more. Continue reading