I read a book a while back called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Making those agreements with yourself, and following them, can be life-changing.
“Be impeccable with your word.” If you say you are going to do something, do it. If you know you can’t take part, be upfront about it. And use your words wisely. To talk about ideas, not people.
“Don’t take anything personally.” Because what other people think of you is none of your business. When people say something negative, it says everything about them and nothing about you. This is a hard one to remember no matter what age we are, but it is so important in setting us free.
“Don’t make assumptions.” You don’t know why people make decisions, so don’t assume. We presume they don’t like us, we aren’t qualified enough for the job, or they would rather spend time with someone else. There are a million reasons why things happen the way they do and if we fill up our minds with assumptions, we have less room for ideas and joy and creativity. If you really want to know why something happened, you can ask. Communication is key.
“Always do your best.” You won’t be at a place where you can perform at 100 per cent every moment of your life. You might be sick, overwhelmed, moving or changing jobs. But you can always try your best from where you are. When your intentions are in the right place, others will see it and you will know it in your heart. That is enough. And you are enough.
Don Miguel Ruiz said, “Every human is an artist. And this is the main art that we have: the creation of our story.”
If you are impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions and always do your best, what story do you think you might be able to write? And what would the ending be? Write on.