My brother is a high school drama teacher and playwright and he said something to me recently that really hit me. He said that in order to find happiness you have to have struggle. And this is an issue with many people as the world we live in allows us to move through it with very little push back. Immediate gratification, everything online at our fingertips, same day shipping, participation medals, no consequences for bad behaviour or missed assignments. Without the storm we don’t notice the sun. Continue reading
Josh Waitzkin, chess prodigy and author, said that before his son was born he remembers hearing parents say, “The weather is bad. It’s raining. We can’t go outside to play.” So when he became a dad, he made it his plan to see all weather as good weather for exploring. Chaos over control. He and his son Jack have never missed a rain storm or a blizzard. Because it’s always a good time to play. Continue reading
I recently read an article that mentioned Brené Brown’s take on belonging versus fitting in. She explained that when you belong, you let your authentic self expand. You accept yourself, flaws and all, and your tribe has your back. When you fit in, you change who you are to suit the room. You contract your quirks, your light and your greatness to ensure you don’t shine too bright. Because you can’t stand out if you want to fit in. Continue reading
For those who have been following my recent saga of moving for the fourth time in four years, my 14-year-old son getting hit by a car on his bike and riding in an ambulance to hospital where he ended up being fine, the moving van swiping my parked vehicle in the driveway and doing thousands of dollars damage, a family of raccoons living in the fireplace at our new address and my son getting bitten by a dog on his leg before he left to compete at the North American Irish Dance Championships, thank you for listening. Continue reading
One year ago today I decided to stop drinking alcohol. I was a white wine drinker and it had become almost a daily habit. If I met someone for a meal I had a glass. If I got home late after an event I had a glass. If I went away for the weekend I had a few glasses. So many hidden, liquid calories.
So I just decided to stop. Cold turkey. For the first six months it didn’t make much difference. Then last January I decided to try Tim Ferriss’ slow carb lifestyle. And I lost 23 pounds. Continue reading
We just returned from the North American Irish Dance Championships held this year in Vancouver. Thirty-five-hundred dancers and 20,000 family and friends descended on the city for a week full of Olympian artistry. The gorgeous venue overlooked the Pacific Ocean and the first thing I noticed after the salt-water breeze was the air of expectation. It was palpable. Continue reading
Author Seth Godin said he really dislikes the question, “Will this be on the test?” It highlights the idea that we only have to digest it if we will be tested on it. That memorization is the goal. That we shouldn’t learn for the sake of learning. To stretch our minds. To connect the dots. To become all that we were meant to be. Continue reading
Chinese philosopher Confucius said, “We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one.” Continue reading
What is your last memory of being really happy? Joyful? Laughing until your stomach hurt?
My guess is it had nothing to do with possessions.
It may have been a family celebration. A graduation. A healthy diagnosis. Some good news after an accident. Watching your loved one shine.
If we are waiting to be happy until we pay off the house or meet the right person or get a better job or lose ten pounds, we will be waiting for a very long time. Continue reading
The thing about art is it reminds you who you are. The reason you laugh or cry or think is because it stirs something inside you that you recognize. And it pulls a reaction from you. Continue reading